The Dash movie  / Julie McGregor (Mum)

In July 2006, a short 3-minute movie was launched on the Internet
called The Dash. Since then, over 40 million people from around the
world have watched it; and over 20,000 a day continue to watch it as a result of people passing it along.

The movie has been more successful than we could have ever
imagined. More important, however, it has inspired many, many
people to reflect on their lives and ask that all important question,
'Are my priorities where they should be?'

I hope you enjoy this movie and share it with those who are close
to you. Click This Link to View:  http://www.dashpoemmovie.com

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The Price of Love is Grief ...  / Mum

A Name For My Pain
by June Williams-Muecke


I have given a name to my pain --
It's called "Longing."

I long for what was,
And what might have been.

I long for his touch and smell of sweat.
I long to hold him one more time.

I long to look on his beautiful face
And impress it upon my memories and heart.

I long to return to the day before
And protect him from his death.

I long to take his place,
So he may live and have sons, too.

I long for time to pass much faster.
So my longing and pain will lessen.

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Joel / Leesa Luhtasaari (Family Friend )

It is still so hard to believe you are gone but the pain in your Mum's eyes brings it home. The look on her face when you are together again, that will be Heaven. Some say Rest in Peace but I am sure you are partying on up there. You always had a big, cheeky grin and a mischievous twinkle in your eye. Love to all your family.

Leesa.

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Were You One of the Lucky Ones?  / Mum

Were you one of the Lucky Ones?

Did you get to meet the one that lived
every day as if it were his last?

Did you see that smiling face,
did you hear his infectious laugh?

Did you know the one that had a hug
for even the ones that fussed at him?

Did you ever go somewhere and know
when the life of the party arrived?

Did you know the one that could make
the best of the worst situation?

Did you feel like you were a special
person around him?

Did you ever feel so loved?

Were you one of the lucky ones...
that got to meet my son?

Unknown Author
Borrowed from another memorial site, with much thanks.

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Six months today  / Mum

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Miss you more  / Mum
I miss you more than you’ll ever know
The world is not the same without you here
Sadness washes over me without a moments notice
Your presence can be so clear 

I wish I could be that Mum again
The one who answered every call
And laughed at all your stories
Who lent the understanding ear

I loved being there for you
I looked forward to all that lay ahead
I wanted the best for you
I lost such a good friend

I still long to see that bright smile
That lit up those green eyes
I want to feel the strong hug
I want to hear your contagious laugh

The wait seems so long indeed
Until I can see you again
I just want to be that Mum again
The one who loved you more than you’ll ever know
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A special friend  / Bruce, Anita And John Callaway (Friends)
We were fortunate to meet and become friends with Joel since 2003 when John our son went to COC.  Joel was always a pleasure to have around and visited our home many times.   He had a lovely nature and was a lot of fun.  He always had a positive and happy disposition.

I remember once that he discovered my vinyl collection (around 1,000 records) and spent some time playing and talking about them.
We last saw Joel at Harvey Norman where he was working in June 2007.  We were about to move down south and discussed this with Joel and invited him to come down to visit.  He seemed keen to do this.

His passing away hit us all very hard as we had become part of the family.  We know he is in heaven with Jesus and that we will meet again one day.  That will be a very happy day indeed.

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Friends' Tributes from My Space  / Friends
Hey Joel, I've put your friends' comments on here so we all can see how much you were loved.
In my heart, Mum xxx 


Tom Tom R.I.P Jimmy
13 Nov 2007 7:43 PM
hey mate
i miss you

Tom Tom R.I.P Jimmy
4 Nov 2007 1:06 PM
Hey dude
i was just thinkin of ya like always...i miss you heaps, cant wait to see you again.
luv ya

**LACEY**
24 Oct 2007 8:37 AM
Babe,
i got my big day out tickets.. it's not gonna be the same without you there!!! i miss you like crazy. i love you xox

Rayyyyme!
16 Oct 2007 12:05 PM
Hey mate. Hope you're having a blast up there..
Hope your birthday was as good as it was last year.
Miss you heaps mate.

Danny Boy
10 Oct 2007 8:45 PM
Happy Birthday man...
Wish I could down a few beers with you. Everyone misses you like crazy man.
Rest In Peace.
Much Love, Danny.

elle.snore.
10 Oct 2007 12:39 PM
Happy birthday dude.
One year ago we were at your house, having a wicked bbq... me and u taking stupid pics and me and mel taking pics with your doggy dog. I still look at those pictures.
your in my thoughts every day. and it still hard to believe that such a horrible thing can happen. sad you couldnt make it to your 19th.
love you mate. bless your soul.

Clint
10 Oct 2007 9:11 AM
Happy Birthday Brother Joel.
Wish we could be together today, but I know we will be together again sometime....
Miss you heaps. 

**LACEY**
10 Oct 2007 8:28 AM
joely,
i still think about you n your family every day. i miss you so much babe. HAPPY BIRTHDAY! i love you. xoxox

Its Chris
10 Oct 2007 12:30 AM
Heey Joel....
just stopping by to let ya know we're thinking of ya...
*Chris

Stefano
9 Oct 2007 10:08 PM
Hey Brother,
Taco and the boys moved out of their place last weekend and it reminded me of the times we partied there all those times.
Thought I would drop a line to say Happy Birthday for Tomorrowski's. It's a Wednesday so me and Taco will drink to you at the Pub at Lunch.
Hope your partying hard up there, but I wouldn't be surprised if you down here with us partying along side, you never could turn down a good time.
Peace Champ,
Stef.

Sharlene
9 Oct 2007 7:55 PM
happy birthday for tomorrow joel! hope your having the biggest party up there in heaven! rock on! and have a piece of cake for me! happy birthday! xoxoxoxxo

Mum
9 Oct 2007 7:46 PM
Hey Joel, Mum here again. Happy birthday for tomorrow. Just a few days before you left us you told me you were hoping to get something really good for your birthday this year. Who would have believed Dad, me, Clint and Ben would be spending your birthday without you. I know you loved the good things in life and I know you are so happy walking those streets of gold, but it still feels like my heart's been ripped out and I miss you so much. Love Mum xxxxxx 

john
7 Oct 2007 11:57 PM
hey man I miss ya. it's your birthday coming up so I'll make sure to have a few drinks for you and remember the good times. the other day I remember how we went to ******** party and it was really lame, and i wanted to laugh about it with you but realised i couldn't. hope you're laughing about it wherever you are.
take it easy man

Danny Boy
5 Oct 2007 8:44 PM
I miss you man, its almost your birthday soon.
It will be a sad day.
I wish we had gotten around to hangin out like we were going to. Your such a champ man, I think about you everyday, Im focused on making the most out of my life in your honor.
Miss you brother.
Danny.

i said da..
5 Oct 2007 6:07 PM
and i loved you because you were such an awesome and excellent friend to my whole family....my brother loves you...and my whole family was shocked to hear your news...i know tom want say that...but i think you should know...you are soorely missed by everyone...

i said da..
5 Oct 2007 5:44 PM
ps jus had a flash back...
remember when you dj'd at mine and amy's bday party...hahahaha and den you taught me how a lil...i still remember how to do it...

i said da..
5 Oct 2007 5:41 PM
hey joely poley...
i see its ur bday in 10 days...Happy Birfday...dont u worry i'll drink a drink for u...
i know tom misses u..so i'll set him up wif a drink too! heehehe

[B][A][B]..
24 Sep 2007 5:43 PM
Hello lil Munchkin,
Was thinkin about u today... Missin ur smile n the things u used to say to me to cheer me up... I remember how we went into the city n justsat talkin for ages n smoked a whole packet of ciggies in like three hours.
Ur my darlin boy n I miss u with all my heart. Oh n I never knew u had fotos of us u cheeki kid ..lol nah but seriously they ripped my heart out. Ur mum raised her boy rite.
I LOVE U!!! XXX

Tom Tom R.I.P Jimmy
21 Sep 2007 10:42 AM
Hey dude
Havn't stopped thinkin bout ya. I saw you in my dream the other night and it was one of the happiest times iv felt.
Miss ya so much bro

Mum
20 Sep 2007 9:24 AM
Hey Joel, Mum here. Still using Clint's login seeing I can't use mine. I am missing you so much and just can't come to terms with you not walking in the door again with your cheeky smile and bossing me about as only you would do, and excitedly telling me about your plans for film.
I got a letter from one of your teachers yesterday. It made me cry but also showed me again what a precious person you were. I love you.

Sharlene
4 Sep 2007 5:06 PM
i miss visiting you at harvey norman. cant wait to see you again in heaven. xoxox your funeral was really beautiful and the music that they made

Paulie
28 Aug 2007 5:11 PM
Hey big man, sorry i missed you last friday... hope everything is going well up there. Was glad to have been a part of your expirence and im fucking glad you were a part of mine.
Always, Paulie

Stefano
25 Aug 2007 2:01 AM
Mate,
Your in a better place now. I miss ya mate. It took a couple of days to sink in but it is hard to say goodbye. I will see you again one day my friend, don't you worry about that.
Peace.

$¹bird.
24 Aug 2007 5:43 PM
you would of loved it today, i know you did kitten.

Sercz...
24 Aug 2007 12:16 AM
Hey Bob,
i miis ya man... you were the only one that still called me by my primary school nick name... memories from way back and recent! im gona miss your humor and your laugh ay... many times you made me cry in laughter particually in drama and ITS! But even the serious chats we had like the last covosation we had about what we were up to and our plans in the future... Your a freaking awesome bloke joel and you deserve so much thanks! you wont be forgoten... you are loved by so many people! i wont forget our hand shake that we did for so many years! great memories man... cheers Bro,
Mary (Nathan Sercombe)

tee.
23 Aug 2007 3:43 PM
i went to school today
and so many memories came flooding back.
every morning of year 12, when you, me ruth matty and zac would be the first people at school, just hanging out in the sun chatting.
god.i miss you.i hope you know that you made an impact on each of our lives.remember when we saw hilltop hoods, man i still count that as one of the funnest nights of my life and im so happy i got to share it with you.everyone was in the philappines and you called steve so he could hear them, so thoughtful and such a good friend, ill miss you joely.
love forever ox

kOSy
22 Aug 2007 5:07 PM
Joely boy every1 will miss u how sad 2 see u go so soon bro :(
we neva did get a chance 2 meet up n talk about our DJing n GSRs
i remember i had 2 DJ at a party n u offered me help n u were gona bring ur vinyls wat a CHAMP
take care big boy
luv kOSy

Lightbulb..
22 Aug 2007 2:34 PM
hey Joel, i made you a tune!! I can picture you smiling. Such a lovely young man!!!! You really cared what other people had to say and took the time to listen and to share, politely. Im gonna remember our discussions about life and music;
squarepusher,aphex twin and rephlex.
Just recently you gave me a lift home from a party. We sat and talked about records and about making music and films as well as where we were heading. Shattering to see you go, a man with a giants heart.
Im gonna remember the times spent with you and John and Daniel (though they were few) as happy days.
Thankyou for letting me be a part of your life,Thankyou for being my friend.
You will be loved and missed RIP
Love Thomas Jamieson

Chris
22 Aug 2007 10:59 AM
Joely,
I don't know what to say man? I know we haven't talked to much since leaving school but I know I will never foget you. I remeber the fun times we had in physics in grade 11 down the back of the classroom - pretty much making silly videos (like eating glue) talking about bands and singing cool songs. I remeber one day we sung 13 blink songs in a row. You were the kind of fellow who had time for anyone. I remember lunch breaks and sport carnival days where I had a guitar with me and you'd always have time to come and listen to me play your requests, mostly "stairway to heaven". Rest in Peace bro, I'll miss ya,
Chris

J e s s i..
22 Aug 2007 9:14 AM
Joel,
i cant stop thinking about you and how all this has come to be.
like everyone else.. i have so many memories of you.. 12 years of school together.. my husband in drama class. the light and fun atmosphere you brought where ever you were.
Thankyou for being you Joel. For not allowing situations or people to change who we know as the awesome Joel.
x

$¹bird.
21 Aug 2007 7:10 PM
I miss you Joel.

Alecia
21 Aug 2007 6:46 PM
Joel
i hope ur in a better place
now
ill never forget u
u treated everyone kindly
n always listened if ppl wanted
to talk.
R.I.P
xo

Tomface
21 Aug 2007 3:33 PM
hey dude. i wish i knew u more ay. u were a great friend over the years. ill miss u heaps. ill always remember u as a funny as hell dude that made everyone happy. peace man.

mel
21 Aug 2007 1:27 PM
Hey man, Ducky here, hope you can see this from up there... I don't even know where to start.. We haven't seen each other as much as we should've but have enough to remain good mates.. had some rad times, you coming round, putting stereo's in all the cars you wrote off ;P rocking up unaware it was my nineteenth b'day to sort out a problem with ure ride.. checking out you new vinyl's n gear soon's u got it.. late night chats on the web.. i don't often cry but you're leaving us so suddenly so soon tears my heart... so many memories n good times.. it's sad to see you go... my love is with you wherever you are dude.. You've been with us for nineteen years, but your memory will live on forever...
- DUCKY - peace and love to you and yours brother

Hot Mess
21 Aug 2007 1:24 PM
Hey Joel,
I hadn't known you long but we had some fun times and crazy nights. I'll never forget you and I'll always cherish the brief time we spent together. I know you're in a better place now.
Love am xo

mel
21 Aug 2007 1:15 PM
Hey man,
You will be greatly missed by anyone who came in your path... The last time i saw you, you gave me your jacket coz i was cold :) You were always looking out for others, and i'm sure you still are. Your generosity and kindness will never be forgotten...Love you man, xoxo

ally
21 Aug 2007 9:58 AM
joel man where to start... i only saw u 2 weeks ago and there was nothing i wouldnt have done to help u... u asked me for advice n i gave it to u... was it not good enough... i danno man i danno wat happened but i do know that i will miss u so much and i do know that u have gone to a much better place im greatly sorry for ur struggle with substance u are a very strong person and i will never forget the times we had together... love ya man... peace out

Changa
20 Aug 2007 8:30 PM
I know you will never get this message, but I want you to know you will be greatly missed Joel, I m sure heaven could use a good DJ
Changa

DuTcHiE
20 Aug 2007 7:39 PM
joel,
you always treated me like a normal girl...not someone with a bone disease that couldnt do everything...
you made me feel normal...you were the best to have around when someone needed to be cheered up...
you will be missed...
love ya lots...
love evelyn

J e s s i..
20 Aug 2007 7:25 PM
Joel,
You are an awesome guy and someone who was always smiling.
you will be missed
love ya x

Claude
20 Aug 2007 7:07 PM
Joely,
we had some fantastic times back in the day. we were the baddest homies around! thankyou so much for all the memories we have had together: chilling out around origin time, hunting snakes, pushing our mates around in shopping trolleys through and into bushes, sleeping over your house and catching movies at Garden City. Your a champion and we'll miss you.
Claude

TACO TIME
20 Aug 2007 5:58 PM
Joel. My Brother.
I know your smiling down from heaven, but I want to be selfish enough to say I wish you was still here.
RIP Bro. I'll c u again one day.

-alana-
20 Aug 2007 9:40 AM
Joel,
Such a shock.
Julian and I are praying for you and your family.
I dont know what to say.
The last time I saw you, you were giving me awesome advice for my lancer and we were putting a stereo in your mums car.
You were such a kind person.
You will be very missed.
RIP
xox

Sharlene
20 Aug 2007 3:39 AM
Joel, Im so sorry man. You where such a great friend. Im sorry we never did get that drink togther. No words seem great enough to say, thanks for all the great parties in your garage. Thanks for throwing laceys suprise party back in the day. Thanks for letting the "family" always watch origin at your place and us all using your room as a making out room. Thanks for all the great memories with the crazy drunk big men that thought we where hurting their kittens.

Rayyyyme!
20 Aug 2007 2:52 AM
I guess we'll have to wait a while to go and take some photos huh?..
We're all gonna miss you dude, you're one of the greatest guys i know. Tonnes of awesome memories.
RIP buddy.

tee.
20 Aug 2007 2:48 AM
we had some really great times joely,
im happy to say we made some fun memories together that will never be forgotten.
ill miss you always xo
love you

Its Chris
20 Aug 2007 12:26 AM
Joel, our thoughts are for you & with your family... from ya cousins in Melb

**LACEY**
19 Aug 2007 11:47 PM
i love u so much... your best guy in the world RIP babe xoxox

J O E
19 Aug 2007 11:36 PM
u were an awesome bloke.........u'll b missed by everyone that knew u.......

Tom Tom R..
19 Aug 2007 8:40 PM
I love ya so much dude
miss u
wish i could see ya now.
u were one of my best mates.
Thanks for the great memories :)
I'll never forget u mate
RIP


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When Tomorrow Starts Without Me  / Mum

When Tomorrow Starts Without Me 


When tomorrow starts without me, and I’m not there to see…
If the sun should rise and find your eyes all filled with tears for me
I wish so much you wouldn’t cry the way you did today,
While thinking of the many things we didn’t get to say.
I know how much you love me – as much as I love you,
And each time that you think of me, I know you’ll miss me too.

But when tomorrow starts without me, please try to understand,
That an angel came and called my name, and took me by the hand.
The angel said my place was ready, in heaven far above,
And that I’d have to leave behind all those I dearly love.

As I turned to walk away, a tear fell from my eye.
For all my life, I’d always thought I didn’t want to die,
When I thought of worldly things I might miss come tomorrow,
I thought of you – and when I did, my heart was filled with sorrow.
But when I walked through heaven’s gates, I felt so much at home.
God had looked down and smiled at me from His golden throne. 

If I could relive yesterday, just even for a while,
I’d say good-bye and kiss you and maybe see you smile.
So when tomorrow starts without me, don’t think we’re far apart,
Every time you think of me, I’m right here in your heart. 

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Words can never be enough  / Graeme (Uncle)
It remains so surreal, words so inadequate.
Our hearts to your Mum & Dad, brothers Clint & Ben, left behind so unexpectedly, the daily loss and pain unimaginable. Close

In Thoughts of You  / Mum

Dear Joel, Dad gave me this beautiful print for Christmas. It's titled "In Thoughts of You". 
You're constantly in my thoughts. I love you. Mum xxxx

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Christmas Eve 2007  / Mum

Hey Joel - here it is Christmas Eve and I'm missing you so much. The house is so quiet without you around. Normally at this time of year you would have been so excited and checking under the Christmas tree every day to see if there were any presents. We will all be thinking of you on Christmas Day and try hard to be positive and remember the good times, but it's going to be very tough. Love always. Mum xxx

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Thinking of you as always  / Mum
Hey Joel, Dad and I were just in Melbourne. We stayed at the same place we all did a couple of years ago. I was sad knowing you weren't with us, and remembering when we were there, and we had breakfast at the Pancake Parlour and then you and Dad had a game of chess on the big set.
You would have loved seeing Hamish. So healthy and happy now. Charlotte was praying for you when Dad put her to bed. We also saw Isaac, Paul & Clarisse's new baby, born the day before your birthday. It seems he has a bit of a strong spirit like his Uncle Joel!
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To all the McGregors  / Rachael Gibson (Friend of Ben's )
Dear Ben and family,

I never had the privilege of meeting Joel but heard a lot about him and the whole family from Ben in the very special time we spent together in South America. I know from Ben that Joel was a wonderful person and with such a supportive and loving family he was a very lucky boy.

My most heartfelt sympathies go to you all. I think about you often Ben and hope that as a family you find some consolation in the fact that you are in our thoughts and prayers. 

I hope to meet you all in Brisbane someday soon.  In the meantime, take care and I hope you continue to find the strength you need to keep Joel in your hearts. 

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His Kindness  / Tom Abella (Friend)
in 2004 I was going on a missions trip to the Philippines with school and about a month n a half before i was badly short on money. Being pretty desperate for funds i was brain storming ideas and one of them was to walk from school all the way home knocking on every single door on the way back (being about 6kms home).

One day i was talking with Joel and told him my idea without even asking him he said "i'll help ya" at first i didnt think he was being serious but he assured me he was with me on this one. so one day after school i lent him a 'Global Care' Tshirt and he put it on and we both walked home doing only the left side of the street knocking on every door until we got to our houses and by the time we got home it was pretty late and dark.

The next day at school I told Joel how much we raised n he was pretty impressed with our effort n i told him that i was walking home again after school but this time knocking on the doors on the right hand side all the way home. Once again Joel offered his help. I didn't want myself to be a hassle to him by making him walk home so i told him not to worry about it and he insisted he wanted to help. so after school we walked home again gaining even more money for my trip n getting home late at night.

Joel didnt expect for me to repay him in any way for his help, he did it purely because he genuinly loved his mates. His kindness was only one aspect of what made him a great guy but overall it was his big heart that made me feel comfortable around him since i was a little kid.

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For Joel And His Dear Family  / Denise Kneale (connected by angels )

Joel your light will never grow dim, stay close to your dear family wrapping your wings around them and letting them feel the peace you do.
I am so sorry for the passing of your dear Son, I remember those early days and months oh so well, so be kind to yourselves.
Love and Blessings Denise mum to James. http://james-kneale.memory-of.com xxx Close

Joel you are missed  / Rhonda Rhodes Craig Sehon's Mom/Joe Rhodes's Wife (visitor)

 Tears for your loss ~ Prayers for your broken heart ~ Hope for your strength to walk the new path before you without this young man to grace your life ~ Trust in Jesus ~ He is the only answer to your grief~

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Remembering ...  / Mum
Hey Joel, I've been listening to the Bob Evans CD in the car. I remember when you bought it and you put it in my car when we were going places (when you'd lost your licence!). You told me that I'd really enjoy it. Well I did, but hadn't listened to it for a long time. The song came on where he sings about his blue car. You laughed so much when you first played that song for me. You really related to the songs on that CD. Close

What a beautiful tribute  / Sian Haywood (Mummy to Angel Max )
What a beautiful tribute to a boy who really seemed to grab life with two hands.

His loss will always be so painful to all those whose lives he touched.

I am sure he is playing in heaven with the other angels and that the day he was taken that heaven was a brighter place for having him there.

Much Love to you all

Sian x

www.max-haywood.memory-of.com

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Hello / Merrin Carpenter (sister-in-law)

Hey Joel,

I thought I would pop in to say hi and spill some goss.
I was remembering today when you me and Clint where standing in your mums kitchen breaking out Crazy as a Coconut by the Avalanches.  Boy we all had that song so stuck in our heads.  It was pretty funny but.

Anyhow I see Clint has spilt the beans that we got engaged on Friday. I really wish you were here to celebrate, but I know your watching from above and I hope smiling or perhaps thinking ow no. hee, hee.

Love Merrin.

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